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Build Your Self-Compassion
— I came across a great quote the other day by the therapist Terrence Real: There is no redeeming value in harshness. This got me to think about compassion, particularly the all-too-rare...
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How to Build Self-Respect: 5 Steps to a Healthy Self-image
— Self-respect and happiness go hand in hand. However, if you’re to label my generation with a single word, it will be: “Dissatisfied”. It’s hard to build self-respect today especially with the huge...
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Want to Be a Better Man? Build Your Self-Compassion
I came across a great quote the other day by the therapist Terrence Real: There is no redeeming value in harshness. And this got me thinking about compassion, particularly the all too rare...
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Unexpected Trauma After Abuse
— Codependency robs us of a self and self-love. We’ve learned to conceal who we really are, because we grew up pleasing, rebelling against, or withdrawing from dysfunctional parents. This sets us up...
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Self-Discipline and Positive Self-Talk
During middle school, I received a lot of emotional abuse which I also saw as a harsh means of discipline. Whenever I said anything wrong or did anything differently there were people there to make...
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Dividing Against Yourself Sucks
Today, a story about the greatest suffering – forgetting who we are. The Client Tim comes into my office. He is torn up inside. He has been married for many years. He’s not shy about sharing how much...
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How To Turn Jealousy Into Jubilation
Joseph P. Kennedy once said, “more men die of jealousy than they do of cancer”. Although I can’t comment on how true that saying is, I can say that jealousy has rarely done anyone any favors. The truth...
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How to Mindfully Be Around Your Family This Thanksgiving
The trick to being around family during the holidays is, counterintuitively, going easy on yourself. Self-compassion won’t convince your uncle that his support for Trump is support for white supremacy...
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Beating Yourself up Inside Isn’t Helping
Bring to mind a habit that you’d like to change. One that you often do unconsciously, without choice. It could be drinking, overeating, checking Facebook, or how you treat someone you love. Really...
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5 Actions That Will Increase Your Level of Happiness In 2020
Happiness is more than just doing fun things. It is about doing meaningful things. — Maxime Legace Are you truly happy relationally, personally or professionally? In 2019, more Americans felt unhappy...
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Step Each Step With Grace and Compassion
The creative work of walking or climbing through a personal journey to wholeness begins by the placement of our footsteps upon sturdy and foolproof foundations. Our choice to place foundational stone...
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I Feel Compassion for My Sexual Assaulter
Poorly groomed, he appeared to be houseless. Life spent in streets and parks can get degrading, no? People treat you like you’re subhuman. He may have had alcoholism, or drug addiction. He was likely...
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Hard to Heal Doesn’t Mean Hard to Love
Healing as an adult is ridiculously hard. It requires bravery, brutal and almost blunt-force honesty, and it can leave you completely depleted. Especially on the days that sneak up out of nowhere and...
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Hey, These Are Difficult Days. You’re Doing Great.
Hey. I don’t know whether anyone’s told you lately or not, but you’re doing a great job. Really. You probably don’t feel that way, but under the conditions that’s understandable. You’ve been busy....
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Working With the Heartbreaking Feeling That Something Is Wrong With You
“I found the Divine within my Heart.” ~Rumi The most common problem I’ve found in the people I’ve coached and worked with in my programs is a very fundamental problem: Most people have the feeling...
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7 Ways to Gift Yourself Instant Peace and Calm
We all have demands and pressures including work, deadlines, our families, taking care of our bodies and the endless ping on our phone alerting us of an email or text message. And the thing is, they...
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The Three Myths of Self-Compassion
We all want to build a better, more compassionate world. But today I want to argue that the most important step you can take towards making that world a reality is offering yourself compassion first....
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Self-Compassion Isn’t Wimpy. It’s the Hardest and Most Beneficial Thing...
I can’t remember a more contradictory time in my life. I’ve never felt so lonely. For the past month, I’ve been living alone on my family’s farm in rural Southern Maryland. It’s been part “Walden,”...
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Strong Relationships Help Kids Catch up After 6 Months of COVID-19 School...
— By Lisa Bayrami, Lakehead University Many Canadian children are now returning to their classrooms after schools shut down in March to stem the spread of COVID-19. Classrooms under strict health...
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Compassion Is Hard
Compassion is hard. To feel a sincere sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others? That’s hard. To feel that along with a strong desire to ease the suffering? Harder...
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